It’s hard to be a woman.
Periods, childbirth, body issues, looks issues, getting a man, losing a man, not having a man, being a single woman and all that means, having a career, not having a career, being successful, deciding whether to stay at home with the kids, wondering if you can have it all, not wanting it all, just wanting some peace, feeling the weight of everyone’s expectations, carrying the burden of everyone’s emotions, menopause. ..
Menopause – now there’s a goodie. Was there ever a more suckie, annoying, frustrating, pain in the bottom trick of nature than the moment when your body decides enough is enough with the reproduction thing and it is time to wind things down? But it’s not like it’s going to be a smooth, quiet transition – well, it might be for some but for me, FOR ME, this is perhaps one of the most OUT LOUD challenges of my life.
Just when I thought I was out of the woods on that particular front, there comes the biggest heatwave in living memory and boy, oh boy, am I hot! Not just hot but it feels like I’m carrying this enormous furnace around inside which without any warning can flare up anytime, anywhere, in a great overwhelming whoosh and I am ablaze and I cannot put this nicely, I am awash with sweat and my face is burning, my neck and throat and chest are streaming, I am literally on fire, and I can’t believe no one is noticing. Nights are the worst, I can’t remember when I slept through the night and I am just so tired.
It’s distressing people, it’s unpleasant, it is downright weird.
But hey the weirdest thing about it is, we don’t really talk about it do we? One of the most natural things that can happen in a woman’s life and while we might admit what’s going on to our girlfriends (men look horribly uncomfortable at the slightest mention of a hot flush), we do it in a bit of a hushed voice, don’t make a fuss, don’t complain, just get on with it really. It’s all rather embarrassing and unedifying and shameful because let’s not say this too loudly, it’s a sign you’re getting old and past it and no one, no one in our youth obsessed culture wants to own up to that, right? … And have you tried HRT? Or this supplement? Or soya bean stew?
I haven’t tried any of the above because I don’t want to put any more stuff inside my poor hot body. What I want is to plunge in the sea, or stand under a cool mountain waterfall, or direct a hose at my face or a large industrial fan at full speed.
Like I say it’s hard to be a woman – but it’s harder still to do it in silence and discreetly (I so hate that word).
So what I say to you women out there who are heating up and sweating your guts out – don’t do it quietly, shout it OUT LOUD, don’t be ashamed of your bodily functions, don’t feel worried it’s a visible sign of aging – so what, so what if it is? Aging is good, it’s fun, it’s nature in progress and it’s happening in a body near you.
If you are a middle aged woman struggling with any of this stuff, come get some coaching around self acceptance and all the wonderful things you are going to do now you don’t have to deal with so many hormones and periods and giving birth or not giving birth. Come, let’s be free of the shame, let’s celebrate being women with all our amazing physicality and bodily emissions. Let’s celebrate getting old – OUT LOUD AND PROUD – contact me at and let’s have a frank, explicit conversation.
And tell us, share with us, what’s been your experience of menopause. Is it ok? Seamless transition? Frustrating and endless? What do you really, really feel about getting old? What? We want to know, we want to share and we want to stop feeling so BOILING!!