Recently, despite a desire to strengthen my awareness of the importance of ‘being,’ I’ve found myself increasingly action oriented. With a packed agenda of ‘important’ tasks to achieve, I’m not only keen to get things done, I feel as if I’m in a perpetual state of push, push, push.
And it occurs to me it is a bit like giving birth. The midwife urges you to push and this is want you want to do, what your body says you must do. The baby has to be born and that’s what you’re determined to make happen – with all your might.
Yet at a certain point as the head starts to crown, the midwife suddenly tells you to stop pushing and breathe. It’s then despite our determination to get the job done that we must trust and let go, slow down and let our bodies do the work it’s designed for – to allow that fragile head to emerge gently in to the world.
From time to time, that’s something we all have to do; in order to ease our ideas and creativity in to the world, we have to stop pushing.
For there are certain things which no matter how hard we try, we cannot fix, control or make happen. In fact in those times when we are pushing so hard it becomes counter- productive, it’s imperative that we do let go so as not to injure the fledgling idea or ourselves. As we give way to the impetus and force of nature, it’s only then that we can hear its message. We must breathe through the pain of our helplessness at the same time as acknowledging that sometimes by surrendering, we give ourselves the greatest chance of success.
Yet without the midwife to tell us when that time has come, how do we know this for ourselves?
Again the body is a great source of information. While my mind urges me to take more and more actions, my body tells me it has had enough. I feel frazzled, exhausted, frustrated. I notice that despite all my best efforts, the goals I am trying to attain seem elusive. It’s then that I know it’s time to stop, take a breath, rest and listen for what’s in the stillness. Listen carefully to what my heart has to tell me.
Do you sometimes find yourself pushing too hard? How do you know when it’s time to let go and let nature take its course? What happens when you do?
And if you feel you have disconnected from knowing how to do this for yourself, that your life has become an ever revolving merry go round of constant activity and would like to explore what’s waiting for you in the stillness, please contact me at and we can take a pause together.